Attract and retain
top female employees.
You’re in charge of selecting and managing employee benefits. This task is becoming more important and challenging every day not only because of changing workforce demographics, but also the critical need to:
To accomplish all of this, more and more employers are turning to fertility-related benefits. Some companies–like Facebook, Apple, and Starbucks–are announcing them publicly, but the list pulled together by FertilityIQ grows every year.
Common Fertility Benefits
Source: International Foundation of Employee Benefits Plans, 2019
Once my husband and I developed our careers enough to feel financially solvent, we decided it was time to start building our family. Unfortunately, my journey to motherhood was long and traumatic.
In five years, I endured seven in vitro fertilization transfers (three fresh, four frozen), four miscarriages, and stillborn twins before finally giving birth to our daughter Aurora prematurely in January 2016.
Inspired by my own painful experience with infertility and pregnancy loss, I launched a twice weekly podcast called Beat Infertility in June 2015. The show features both infertility warriors and fertility experts to empower listeners to educate themselves and become their own self-advocates.
I now help women who dream of becoming mothers to navigate the complicated world of fertility treatments and other paths to parenthood.
1 in 8 -- both women and men -- experience infertility
Just 16 states
mandate IVF insurance coverage, but there are exceptions,
including small businesses or large corporations
of women would opt for a company
offering fertility benefits over a company that didn’t
Patient Attitudes Toward Their Employer When 100% Covered
Source: FertilityIQ, 2019
of women would prefer an employer who
provided coverage for annual fertility
Currently, of employees battling infertility, only 29 percent feel supported by their employer overall and 38 percent feel supported by their direct supervisor. Luckily, the situation is a little improved with
co-workers, by whom 44 percent feel supported.
The result of these individuals not feeling supported is three-fold:
1. They leave: 30 percent have quit a job in the past in part because they did not feel supported with regard to their infertility.
2. They are actively looking for, or are open to, new job opportunities: 27 percent are looking or open because of the company overall, 29 percent because of their direct supervisor, and 20 percent of co-workers.
3. They stay, even though they are unhappy: 32 percent stay to take advantage of infertility insurance benefits.
The answer to this problem is to offer–or expand your–fertility benefits. One great option is infertility coaching.
As someone who spent tens of thousands of dollars on fertility treatments, I know that any additional expense is not taken lightly. However, I also know that if I had someone to guide me through the process and help me research and make decisions along the way, my journey would have been much shorter and less traumatic — ultimately saving me money and time.
It would be an honor and privilege to support your employees! This could be done in a number of ways:
Get answers to questions you didn’t even know needed to be asked to help make scientifically-based, well-informed decisions about your next steps.
Includes but is not limited to:
Wishing is the belief that your goal — building your family — will simply manifest into reality. Hope, on the other hand, is the belief that the future will be better than the present and you have the power to make it so. Together, I’ll help you build a hopeful mindset.
Includes but is not limited to:
Develop the ability to accept the challenges of your situation, process and recover from pain more effectively, eliminate resistance to prolonged suffering, and find healthy ways to adapt and move forward.
Includes but is not limited to:
Self-advocacy is voicing what you need — not confrontation. Most infertility warriors are not natural self-advocates and thus need help developing this skill.
Includes but is not limited to:
You are not alone on this journey. But you need a fellow infertility warrior to support and guide you, pick up the pieces when your world is falling apart, and celebrate even your smallest wins.
Includes guidance and support in the following areas, based on personal experience and research:
HEALTH & WELLNESS
Although it can be an uncomfortable topic for some, your overall health and lifestyle matters on this journey. Optimize it to be fertility-boosting rather than fertility-hindering.
Includes guidance, accountability, and meal plans for the following lifestyles:
Additionally, includes workout and stress management plans and accountability.
WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY
I started to work with Heather at the lowest point in my fertility journey, just after a fifth IVF cycle, ERA, and subsequent third failed PGD tested embryo transfer. Needless to say, the possibility of a biological child felt as if it were slipping away.
As a physician myself, I turned to Heather at first, not so much for help with medical decision-making, but because I was broken and looking for an impartial friend who could empathize with the emotional suffering I was experiencing.
Over the next year, Heather became an integral part of my ‘treatment team.’ During weekly brainstorming conversations with Heather, I began to realize that I had previously been completely deferential to my RE clinic doctors and nurses; often putting anxieties and questions aside as I knew that their expertise was far from my own scope of practice.
Week by week, for months, Heather provided me with small steps which stretched the limits of my comfort zone. I began advocating for my needs as a patient and even changed to a different physician within my RE clinic who was more responsive to my concerns. At the same time, Heather provided me with the female support and connection I had initially sought.
Ultimately, based on Heather’s encouragement, I sought a third opinion and became a patient at an RE clinic half way across the country. Talk about stretching my comfort zone! A cross-country journey was big step that I would have never imagined when I began this journey 4 years ago.
At my new RE clinic, I was able to work with a physician who re-instilled confidence in the IVF process for my husband and I. Our physician set statistics aside and tailored a treatment plan to my body. Our journey is not over but I am much closer to bringing home our miracle baby. Currently, Heather and I are working on new anxieties of early pregnancy after infertility.
Although Heather is not a reproductive endocrinologist, her summative experience sets her apart from other infertility mentors. Maybe, like myself, you feel you are just in need of a friend who has been where you are. However, in working with Heather you will have not only have a constant member of your infertility team who will provide emotional support and is in your corner through thick and thin, but who also helps you process information on a consistent basis and empowers you to make changes that can improve outcomes.
Best of luck to all of the infertility warriors.
I've been a patient at four IVF clinics in two states for 4.5 years, but Heather is literally the only person (doctors included) who has ever carefully read my medical records. She was immediately able to spot improvements that could have been made to my protocols. After 4 egg retrievals and 6 transfers that hadn't resulted in a baby, she told me that based on my results to date, IVF could still work for me -- and I was not crazy to keep putting energy and money into having my own genetic child.
Unlike a therapist, Heather will actually tell you what to do next and what to ask your doctors in order to make progress. I moved while working with her and appreciated that all the support was over the phone, so it didn't have to be interrupted. She was responsive when I needed something different (emotional work rather than strategizing or vice versa).
My new home doesn't have an IVF clinic, and Heather walked me through becoming a patient at a clinic 10 hours away, which I couldn't really wrap my mind around at the time. I was ultimately successful there.
I believe that working with Heather earlier could have cut a year or two off my journey. She backed up my intuition about what my last hurdle was, suggested a specific medication for it, and I am now 14 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby girl. While that won't be the outcome for everyone, Heather is the real deal -- none of this "just think positive" BS -- and I recommend her regularly!
It’s hard to put the value of Heather’s help into words. To say she is a wealth of knowledge is an understatement. The infertility journey can get overwhelming very quickly. Heather takes all the stress from you and takes it on herself.
I needed to switch clinics to one that specializes in recurrent pregnancy loss. Heather researched clinics in my city and called the clinics and asked questions to see which would be best suited for my individual needs. She will provide you with questions to ask, ways to advocate for yourself, and even sit in on consultations.
I have secondary infertility and felt as though I was letting infertility consume my life by obsessing over it, rather than putting time and energy into my son. Heather was invaluable in that she allowed me to not think obsessively about infertility. Being able to mentally disconnect from infertility is something for which I will forever be thankful.
If you’re feeling like you’re mentally exhausted by infertility, have unanswered questions, or wondering if you’re on the right protocol for your specific needs, then Heather will be as great of an asset for you as she was for me.
Before Heather began working with me as a coach, it seemed no one understood what I was going through with infertility and pregnancy loss. I felt isolated, sad and stuck, but making the decision to work with Heather changed that.
She comes with such deep knowledge of the infertility journey, and she makes you feel understood and supported in a way that your spouse, friends, family and doctors cannot. She works so hard to take an action-oriented approach to achieving your fertility goals that match your needs, no matter your fertility challenges.
Heather's coaching has taken me from being afraid not only that I couldn't achieve another pregnancy, but that if I did my body would not be able to safely carry it; to restoring my belief that both of those things are possible and will happen for me.
She is meticulous about understanding your medical background and connects you with the right experts, doctors and resources you need to find success on your infertility journey.
Partnering with Heather was a crucial step in our infertility journey.
Before Heather, we worked with a fertility center that did not have our best interests in mind. The doctor did not customize my protocol, and all three frozen embryo transfers failed. The doctor did not plan to change the protocol, and I felt frustrated with his approach.
Heather convinced us to change clinics. RMA of NJ provided a personalized protocol and took the time to understand my needs as a patient. Heather also recommended supplements, dietary and lifestyle changes that improved my results. She also provided amazing emotional support on our weekly calls.
My retrieval resulted in 7 normal blastocysts, and I am currently 14 weeks pregnant on the first try (knock wood). I am incredibly grateful for Heather's advice, support, and compassion. Working with her was integral to our success.
Working with Heather has facilitated breakthroughs in my cultivating a healthier mental space, as well as in brainstorming ideas to present to my doctor. In my previous cycles, I had employed the "grit-your-teeth-and-bear-it" method, with the hopes that it'd be "the end" (i.e., being pregnant) very soon. However, through weekly calls and daily check-ins, Heather helped me realize that it's important to serve and participate in all of the other aspects of my life that make me who I am, which has made me feel lighter, stronger, and more able to continue in my treatment.
Furthermore, even though Heather is not a doctor, her vast experience in the infertility world has rendered her invaluable in coming up with ideas to present to my doctor. Since my infertility is largely unexplained, our discussions have provided insight that has directly manifested to changes my doctor has made in my protocol.
Finally, Heather has provided unmatched support for a path that I've found to be, at its essence, lonely. A lot of people in my life don't want to or don't know how to talk about infertility; as a result, I have often felt isolated, which only exacerbates the grief I feel after failed treatment cycles. Heather, in contrast, has been an unwavering support whose empathy is so fully engulfing and genuine that I always leave our conversations feeling energized.
All in all, I would very much recommend working with Heather, for whatever stage you may happen to be in your infertility journey. She's helped, and continues to help, me get through this very difficult time.
When my third IVF cycle failed I knew I had to make some changes, I just didn't know what they should be. I knew I had to change clinics, but the thought of moving away from the comfortable and starting over was scary and overwhelming. I started doing my own research and got bogged down in conflicting medical opinions. I was feeling lost and confused when I decided to do a deep dive session with Heather.
She thoroughly reviewed my medical records, had detailed notes and suggestions and walked me through various scenarios. She even researched the best clinics and individual physicians at each clinic most suited for my diagnoses and individual circumstances. I received more information, guidance and support in that two-hour session than I have received from a single provider in over six years.
I left the session with a detailed, step by step plan. Heather provided me all of her notes with embedded links for convenience. I feel more confident and hopeful than I have in years and able to finally advocate for myself in this process, something I was not previously able to do. I truly feel the deep dive session was the turning point in my journey. Heather is emphatic, funny and so knowledgeable about all things fertility. I am so grateful to have found her.
I did a Deep Dive session with Heather. This was the right thing for me at this point in my course – a year into a diagnosis of POI and in between plans and clinics. I’ve been with two clinics and had multiple consults. Despite that, I haven’t always felt that my team was giving me all the information I needed or making the best decisions for me.
When I started this whole infertility course, I had no idea what I didn’t know, which makes it difficult to ask the right questions. In meeting with Heather, I was looking for an outsider view on my care and situation. The two-hour session was an opportunity to reflect on my progress so far with 6 IUIs under my belt, one of which was a converted IVF cycle. What has gone well? What could use improvement? What questions might I want to bring up as I establish care in a new clinic?
It was also validating to have an outsider’s perspective on some concerns I’ve had about various plans and providers. It’s difficult to know what is “normal” and not when you’re in the middle of such an emotionally exhausting experience! I’ve learned a lot in the past year and I really appreciated working with Heather to help fill in some of the holes!