Hey, infertility warrior
Are you feeling hopeless? Stuck? Confused? Alone?
If so, you've come to the
About You
Do you have a deep-rooted need to build your family yesterday but struggle to do so? As you watch friends and family become pregnant easily over and over, do you worry it might never happen for you?
Are you overwhelmed by the prospect of finding a fertility clinic, starting treatments, or moving to the next stage in your journey? Although you’ve heard how common infertility is, do you have no one in your life to help guide you through the process and hold your hand along the way?
I'm going to let you in on a secret...
You’re already a mom. Our goal is to make you a parent.
It took me a long time to come to the realization that I was a mom long before my daughter Aurora was born. She made me a parent, but I became a mom the moment we started trying to conceive — the moment we wanted to add children to our family and opened our hearts to that unconditional love we’d bring those future children.
The fastest way to realize your dream of becoming a parent is to:
- Get educated about the complicated journey that is infertility.
- Regain hope that success is possible.
- Build resiliency against anything that might come up throughout your journey.
- Learn to advocate for yourself with your fertility treatment team.
- Partner with someone who’s been there, can validate your feelings, and can provide research and guidance the whole way.
I work with women who:
- Struggle to build their families the ‘old-fashioned way.’
- May have suffered one or more pregnancy loss.
- Place a greater emphasis on Western medicine over Eastern, holistic medicine.
- Are ready to feel like a whole person again, rather than be solely defined by their infertility.
- Consider their furbaby (or furbabies) a part of the family.
I’m Heather, and
I’ve been where you are.
My Story
In April 2015, I hit the lowest point in my infertility journey. To recap up until that point: four years, six transfers (two fresh, four frozen), four miscarriages, and stillborn twins.
And to top it all off, my April transfer had just gone epically bad. Of the 10 eggs retrieved, only one turned into a (barely) viable embryo, I had to be hospitalized for internal bleeding following the retrieval, and the embryologist (finally) discovered I had been producing poor quality eggs my entire journey.
At first, I wallowed. Big time.
But when I woke up on Mother’s Day the following month, I decided to make a change. Hope wasn’t going to find me on its own — I had to put in the effort to find it. That’s when I recorded my first Beat Infertility podcast episode.
Six weeks later...
I went through my third fresh transfer (seventh overall) and, as they say, the rest is history.
If you’ve ever listened to the podcast, you can probably I believe in the healing power of hope. Don’t get me wrong, just like stress doesn’t cause infertility, the presence of hope cannot cure it. But it can have a tremendous impact on your journey and overall life.
...grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
Reinhold Niebuhr
Hope
Let’s take a moment to define hope.
Hope is the belief that the future will be better than the present and you have the power to make it so.
Hope is hard work.
Hopeful people are realists. They realize there will be a lot of obstacles between Point A (trying to conceive) and Point B (child in their arms). But they come up with plans to overcome those obstacles. They are not shy about reaching out for support and help. They understand that sometimes changing course, even just a little bit, is necessary.
Wishing, on the other hand, is the belief that the goal — building your family — will manifest into reality without the hard work. This is a passive approach that undermines the willpower you have for that goal.
Up until that Mother’s Day, I had really been just wishing.
Don't be like me at that point in my journey.
Now What?
At this point you’re probably wondering, OK, Heather, I’ve decided I want to be hopeful, but how exactly do I go about doing that?
There are two types of people:
1. Those who let adversity define and consume them.
2. Those who initially get knocked down by adversity but stand right back up, ready to fight.
You are still reading this because you are the latter.
You are the Type A who’s worked hard for everything she has. And in other areas of your life, you’re killin’ it like a boss. But you’re struggling to apply the ‘hard work equals success’ principle to your infertility journey. That’s exactly why I created this program.
What to expect
Education
Hope
Resilience
During the winter, when tree branches take on too much snow, they gently bend without breaking to let go of the weight. Over time, nature has learned how to adapt — and so, too, can you. Together, we can tackle whatever your infertility journey throws your way.
Self-Advocacy
I wasn’t successful until I realized I had a voice — and learned how to use it. Unfortunately for me, that wasn’t until the cycle of my seventh transfer. Luckily for you, I can help you find your voice and figure out how to best wield it.
Partnership
I’m here to provide you answers to the questions you have — and the ones you don’t even know to ask. I’m here to help pick up the pieces when it feels like your world is falling apart — and celebrate even your smallest wins. Simply put, I’m here — every step of the way.
Who I am
A Realist
Your feelings are valid. Although no one should stay in the dark place for too long, I'll make that journey with you -- and help you find your way back out. No 'just think positive.'
Excellent Listener
Whether it's during our one-on-one sessions or via text messages while you hide in the bathroom at work, I am here to listen to your hopes and fears about building your family.
A Researcher
In addition to being naturally curious, I love getting down into the nitty-gritty of individuals' unique infertility journeys -- and the questions still left unanswered.
No B.S.
Although I wish I could promise you a quick and successful pregnancy, alas, I cannot. But I can promise you no B.S. Our relationship will be one of kindness, honesty, and transparency.
What they say
Working with Heather has facilitated breakthroughs in my cultivating a healthier mental space, as well as in brainstorming ideas to present to my doctor. In my previous cycles, I had employed the “grit-your-teeth-and-bear-it” method, with the hopes that it’d be “the end” (i.e., being pregnant) very soon. However, through weekly calls and daily check-ins, Heather helped me realize that it’s important to serve and participate in all of the other aspects of my life that make me who I am, which has made me feel lighter, stronger, and more able to continue in my treatment.
Furthermore, even though Heather is not a doctor, her vast experience in the infertility world has rendered her invaluable in coming up with ideas to present to my doctor. Since my infertility is largely unexplained, our discussions have provided insight that has directly manifested to changes my doctor has made in my protocol.
Finally, Heather has provided unmatched support for a path that I’ve found to be, at its essence, lonely. A lot of people in my life don’t want to or don’t know how to talk about infertility; as a result, I have often felt isolated, which only exacerbates the grief I feel after failed treatment cycles. Heather, in contrast, has been an unwavering support whose empathy is so fully engulfing and genuine that I always leave our conversations feeling energized.
All in all, I would very much recommend working with Heather, for whatever stage you may happen to be in your infertility journey. She’s helped, and continues to help, me get through this very difficult time.
L. from Arizona
Monthly Memberships
Silver Member
minimum commitment of 3 months-
Weekly 15-minute one-on-one sessions with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Discounted additional one-on-one sessions
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Between session resources and 'homework,' such as personality assessments and goal tracking
Platinum Member
minimum commitment of 3 months-
Weekly 45-minute one-on-one sessions with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Discounted additional one-on-one sessions
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Unlimited text messaging support between sessions
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Between session resources and 'homework,' such as personality assessments and goal tracking
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Cycle concierge support, such as scheduling appointments and obtaining copies of medical results
Gold Member
minimum commitment of 3 months-
Weekly 30-minute one-on-one sessions with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Discounted additional one-on-one sessions
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Between session resources and 'homework,' such as personality assessments and goal tracking
Member-only Discounts
15-Minute Session
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Additional 15-minute one-on-one session with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Available only to monthly members
30-Minute Session
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Additional 30-minute one-on-one session with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Available only to monthly members
45-Minute Session
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Additional 45-minute one-on-one session with me, using a combination of my coaching methodology and your unique journey
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Available only to monthly members
Can’t commit to a monthly membership right now? I also offer single 90-minute sessions for $247.
Invest in Yourself
I know how scary it is to invest in yourself at this stage of your infertility journey, but I also know the power of allowing yourself to be supported at such a crucial time.
You also deserve the best fit for you. So, let’s get on the phone and find out if that’s us. Use the scheduling tool below to pick a date and time that work best for you.